Being a new parent is completely overwhelming in so many ways. I feel like the ante-natal classes you sign up for really only focus on the birth. Once that part’s out of the way, what on earth do you do with this tiny human you’ve brought home?
I remember hubby and I feeling completely perplexed that we’d been allowed to stroll out of the hospital, carrying the baby, without any further instructions. What now?
Buy a book
Once you’re over the initial shock that the baby you’ve been carrying around for nine months is actually real, and you’ve regained some sense of rationality, you’ll probably think, “It’s okay, we’ll buy a book. All the answers will be in there.” But wow, there are so many parenting books out there to choose from. My mum had only one book by Penelope Leach when she had me. How do you know where to start? Some authors and books almost have cult followings, such is the loyalty with which devoted readers stick to their teachings.
One of my besties absolutely loves Gina Ford and used her methods religiously when bringing up her two boys. Gina teaches you to stick to a set routine for feeding/napping/sleeping day in and day out. It’s strict and rigid but works well for many. My friend’s little ones slept through early on which, let’s face it, is a great result. Others, such as Penelope Leach (who is still going strong today) offer a more child-led approach, where you work out what your baby needs and then build the routine around them.
Neither way is the “correct” approach. It depends what works for you and your baby, and the kind of lifestyle you’re leading or want to lead. Also, much of it depends on your personality and your natural style of parenting. You don’t know what kind of parent you’re going to be until it happens. But you find out pretty quick. Your natural way of being determines your parenting style and how you react to the many challenges along the way.
Top three recommendation
We've read quite a few parenting books over the past five years but we've found these three, in particular, super helpful:
Firstly, disclaimer: I’m not claiming to be an expert on parenting, at all. In fact tonight I told my kids to F off, yep. Im THAT parent. But in all honesty they’ve broken me this week and while im sat reflecting over a glass (bottle) of wine, I think its probably because I need to take a bit of my own advice!
Greg works away due to being in the military, we are currently involuntarily separated which means that he has been forced to work away from where we currently live, or we have been forced to live where he currently works. Either way you look at it, its pretty crap! We’ve done it voluntarily before, but it just doesn't work for us as a family. Because, well, we all love each others company funnily enough! So when we got the news that Greg in fact would not be joining us in our new home, which is miles from family, surrounded by empty houses and is as rural as it gets, I was not impressed. The good thing is that he will be back weekends, so until December this year, I will be solo parenting from Monday to Friday every, damn, week.
So, one question I get regularly is, how do you cope?
Somedays, I don’t even know how I get through the day. I get to the point where I could either cry, scream, or get in the car and drive off leaving the kids to fend for themselves. Most of the time its either of the first two. But the other times I am very stringent, very organised and I’ll say it, I parent the shit out of life.
Organisation is key!
Plan everything! Your days out, your meals, your outfits, your toilet breaks...you get my drift. Write it down and go with that plan. I find when I plan our outfits I will get them out the night before, iron them if needed, and lay them somewhere they cant be thrown on the floor by irritating miniature humans, it saves 20 minutes in the morning, which will mess up our routine and push back the time we can get out of the door. It may seem like just 20 minutes but that could be an entire journey somewhere and it all adds up! Getting up 30 minutes before the kids for a shower is also a great way to wake you up and really feel ready to take on the day. Doing your makeup with scratchy fingers grabbing at your ankles just isn’t ideal, so I always try to do it before they even think about opening their eyes in the mornings! Planning meals is also fabulous for my urge to be in total control of my schedule. Its great to plan meals you can slow cook, so prepping a meal in the evening is less of a strain and you’re not constantly back and forth keeping an eye on the kids making sure they’re not sticking fingers in plug sockets or picking up chickens by their tail feathers (don’t ask).
Planning your days out not only gives you that structure for the week but also gives you something to look forward to each day and as stressful as it is taking all of the kids out for the day, it’s also so liberating doing it by yourself. Just because your partner isn't with you doesn't mean that the littles cant make memories with mummy!
As well as a week full of plans, I like to plan some down time, whether that be a morning, afternoon or a full day is up to you. I like to do a lot of stuff in the mornings so we can get home for the babies main nap, that way I get a little break or some alone time with the girls. But most weeks I will plan to stay in for a whole day, slow things down and don’t put pressure on myself to be somewhere. I’ll get in some munchies and just watch films all day, or prep the garden for a day of lazing and slow living! Soak it all in because you will need a bit of down time too, and so will the kids!
Find your tribe!
You know what I bloody hate that word, but I’ve drunk two glasses of wine and my brain is slightly fried so I cant think of another word. A friendship group is needed. Being surrounded by your offspring and talking to them as mummy all day is draining. I love them but theres only so much sympathy I can give for a tiny pin prick injury to the little finger. Get your mates round, let the kids play and have some adult conversation. Its also a good idea to choose your friends well, you want the ones you know will support you no matter what and vice versa, and if they piss you off you need to tell them, or at least feel like you can! In this type of situation where we move regularly and are forced into new friendship groups it can be really difficult to find the ‘right’ ones. But they always find their way to you, so be patient. (can really tell I’ve had two glasses now…)
Don't be afraid to have a drink. Responsibly of course!
While we are on the subject of wine…a drink in the evening can really help you relax. I don’t drink every night, I don’t even drink every week, but if I feel particularly stressed I will treat myself to a bottle, sometimes I’ll drink it all over a few hours, but I wouldn't get smashed while I was in charge of all the kids alone. Calling out an ambulance because your kid has a fever and you are too pissed to drive to the shop and grab some calpol is apparently a waste of NHS money…so yeah, don’t do that. Be responsible but don’t feel guilty for that wind down tipple!
Make time for yourself!
Last but not least, a snippet of time for myself in the evenings is always worked into my schedule. Whether its for a bath in silence, a paint of my rancid toe nails, or binging on a box set. Whatever works for you then go for it. Being on duty 24 hours a day with no help is hard work, and to work harder we need to look after ourselves too. Self care is actually less selfish than you may think!
I really hope anyone in the same or similar situation than me can take some of these tips and make their days solo parenting a little easier, and if you have anything to add, please let us know!
My biggest piece of advice for a first time parent is to find your tribe. Tribe - cliquey AF right?
Now, I've not really been apart of 'tribe' since school, I have different pockets of friends and it works for me. What I love the most about my friendships is that they cross over and my different friends mix together perfectly, I might have pockets, but my friends all have very similar qualities.
When I found out that I was cooking Rudi I realised quite quickly that for me it was a priority to find baby friends, I didn't want to feel alone, become isolated or resent that I had no life beyond motherhood. I knew that they wouldn't just land on my lap, so I went in search of them, scary but totally worth it. I started a pregnancy yoga class which, if I'm honest, was more about napping and complaining about how shite we all felt, I LOVED that hour that I got once a week. Our babies started to arrive and I honestly don't think that any of us expected for our friendship to develop into what it has. I have a full on dog lump** writing that because those beautiful women have been the key to my survival. They just get it, they get me! Our babies are the same age, we're usually up at the same times on whatsapp; the same trials, the same tribulations. We laugh, we cry, we watch our babies grow up together. We are incredibly lucky and I knew without them that I would have gone completely batshit crazy. They saved me and maybe I saved them?!
Our friendship is strong. We are honest. No topic off limits... literally nothing! Our friendship allows me to see that I'm a good Mama, it allows me to know that I'm a good friend and that I am enough. The thing about friendship is that you have to nurture and care for it, you get out of it what you put into it. We're three years into our hot mums (whatsapp group name) friendship, we have grown, we have changed, we've added sisters and old friends and I think that's what a tribe should be about. A tribe doesn't need to be cliquey and mean. Be open to change and allow for growth, you won't always get on with everybody or have the same opinions, but be kind.
In the past three years I have gained two boy humans, 15 other small humans that I beyond love and I have found 7 inspirational women that will be a part of my life for a really long time, hopefully forever.
If you're just starting your journey into motherhood and you're worried about being alone or feeling that bite of loneliness then get on to the internet and research your local baby groups. I'm pretty bloody certain that you wont be the only one that's feeling the pressure of motherhood, that's tired AF or feeling isolated. Why not go in search of that 'gem' of a friend that you just can't live without?!
**Dog Lump - A very technical term for when you become emotional and get that lump in your throat, some might compare it to the lump that you get when watching adverts about homeless dogs.
Mama Roo And Boy
By now we’ve all seen THAT quote that sent us into deep thought, or perhaps you looked at it differently and saw something that was untrue? However we look at it, a parent gets a period of time to spend with their children at different stages in their lives.
For me, I looked at this and felt panic, reality of how little time I have with Cailyn while she’s a little girl. She’ll soon grow up, flee the nest and have her own life. One thing's for sure, me and Chris will always look at her as our baby girl. We don’t just have 18 summers, we have a life time of summers, winters, autumns and springs. We have birthdays, Christmas and all the fun in between. There’s every day, night and morning to enjoy each other, make memories, and you know what? We'll make sure that our little family is close & cared for no matter how old we are.
We’ve made many memories, explored and created the best childhood we can for Cailyn to run free, be wild and have that muddy life kids should have. There’s nothing better (in our opinion) than letting your child play, be outdoors & make a mess. I was brought up mostly on my grandad's farm as a child so for me messy play & animals were always a massive part of my life. And I want that for Cailyn too, as well as to travel - another massive part of my life, I moved out when I was 16 & went traveling when I was 21 - I didn’t return until 27 years old. Cue Chris and then Cailyn who followed months after.
I feel that yes the quote is beautiful and scary but it also makes us look at what’s important and that’s family, Family, above 'things,' and making moments together mean so much, no matter how big or small. For us there’s no shop that can sell me what time can give us with Cailyn.
Schools out!! ...... what are your plans this summer?
We love travel so much so I booked 3 holidays this year 2 weeks apart .... oops!! We do love our U.K. holidays and living in Scotland does provide the most beautiful and, quite frankly, best views around.
The next trip is a log cabin booked for November - in this family most birthdays are in November so it’s a combined break for myself, mum and Chris. So keep an eye out for this treat (@cailynsmummy) as it’s gorgeous! The first time my mum went there I had bought the trip for her 50th birthday while I was living in Jersey and it looked amazing. One of those proper wooden style lodges (unlike a few I’ve seen that haven’t kept the wood inside to show off). Same month birthdays though - anyone else? Why is there always that month of birthdays so close together that they could practically share the wrapping paper?
We went to Italy in April, just myself & Chris for 3 nights in Sorrento, which was unbelievable and just the most beautiful city! We love Italy. It really is the place to be for everything fashion, food & colour. Two weeks after that we went on our first family trip to Lanzarote. Chris’s family, mine and friends joined us there. 7 days of heat, stress, great times and amazing tapas times! Would I do it again? Yes, but I’d want more time to do things alone with Chris and Cailyn and not have to feel like I had to please everyone. The pressure of not getting enough time spent with people for Cailyn’s sake got to me a little and I felt I didn’t see my best fiend enough, Cailyn wouldn’t settle with anyone properly other than us so this precious time was taken away as we would of loved some down time. Plus there’s that pressure of not drinking like we used to, you know before kids. Life changes and Cailyn is our priority, but nowadays I’d much rather cuddle her in bed than go out boozing with friends. However, some down time to spend with our friends, Joanne and James would be fantastic and very needed! We’re both engaged now and still haven’t celebrated. They live in Jersey & it costs £500 return from Scotland - yeah! Sort it out. I’d like to see my friends more EasyJet!
Have you ever done a family holiday? Did it work? Talk to me!!! I love my own space and that’s what I need on holiday, so I hope that next time I’ll feel more relaxed & ready to just say no and not feel guilty. Ahhh that word guilt! Mum guilt is the worst, right?
Cailyn’s Mummy X
Today we meet Maricarmen, a mum of 2 young boys, personal trainer and the creator of The Pre & Postnatal Health & Body plan- a membership website which helps mums get fit and healthy around their family and a busy lifestyle.
Tell us a bit about yourself:
I’m Maricarmen, a mother of 2 busy boys, a partner to Dean, the owner of The Pre & Postnatal Health & Body Plan and a 1-2-1 Personal Trainer. I have a passion for health, wellbeing and exercise and finding ways to live a healthier lifestlye around the kids while still enjoying life! The want to be healthy for my children lead me to become a personal trainer and my passion has lead to a hobby of competing within the bodybuilding world in the tall bikini category.
reason I have created different levels of membership, each with a varying level of direct support from myself but with every membership adaptable to individual members and their own personal goals. Our memberships start from £9.99 a month with our bronze package, which gives you access to safe pre or postnatal workouts, guidance on planning your food intake, delicious and nutritious recipes suitable for all the family and guidance from myself and guest contributors on general health and wellbeing. Our silver and gold memberships include more direct support from myself with personal check ins and monitoring of progress.
How do you find juggling mama hood and running your own business?
I will start by saying my boys are the most wonderful little boys, but they can be a handful and I honestly believe the way I manage both of them and running a business is by having a routine. My life consists of late nights and early mornings! I am continually working on the PHBP; creating and uploading content, adapting the website, creating my marketing plan, scheduling social posts and generally building the business. My 1-2-1 PT sessions are generally of an evening, so the admin side of things begins at 9pm (now that love island is over). We are very lucky that Dean works shifts and we manage the boys, between the two of us, around his shifts. Weekends are our own at all times! There are very few weekends we don’t have something scheduled in for the whole family. We are very active as a family so whether it’s a bike ride for the boys and a run for me, a trip to the beach for ice cream and sandcastle building, a chilled day in the garden with a BBQ and paddling pool or a full weekend of camping we ensure we are solely focused on our boys and they get the best of us.
Do you have any other exciting news or upcoming events?
For the month of August we have been running a #mumstakeover feature where friends and clients of the PHBP are sharing their own personal journeys of motherhood on our blog, so head over there if you fancy a read of some truly inspiring stories. When September arrives we will be giving you a daily tip on how to be a healthier you so stay tuned for that. Also, really exciting news, September and October will see the PHBP attending two baby shows at the baby and toddler show at Manchester event city 28-30th September and the baby show London Olympia 19-21st October so come and say hi if you’re there!
What do you enjoy most about running your own business?
I love the job satisfaction I get from helping mums and I love working with clients who I can relate to when it comes to their goals. It may be that they want to get their confidence back after putting on weight during pregnancy, becoming more confident with working out, going for their first run or making small lifestyle changes, all of these are achievable goals with the PHBP and having the opportunity to be the support that mums need to smash these goals is just the best feeling.
Where can people find out more about you and PHBP?
You can find out all about me and the PHBP at www.phbp.co.uk and you can keep up with all our daily goings on by following @thephbplan on Facebook and Instagram. I am a BIG fan of Instagram stories so if you want to see what me and my boys get up to on a daily basis we’ll see you there!
Thanks so much for taking the time out to chat Maricarmen. PHBP sounds like a wonderful resource for busy mums looking to stay fit and healthy. Wishing you all the best with PHBP in the future!
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How humble are you? Kindness is on the rise, but are we all inclusive? My Nana used to say ‘never look down on anyone. You never know when you might be looking up at them’. I always thank the cleaner at work and so I blinking should!
worse still, they assume I don’t work because my husband should be out raking it in every day while I stay home spending money and entertaining the kids. If that’s your jam that’s totally fine with me, but I like my job(s). I have friends with amazing jobs and I’m exceptionally proud of them and their success. I also have friends who stay home with kids all day and I’m just as proud of them. Regardless of whether you’re a cleaner or the CEO of a company it doesn’t matter. Your job doesn’t define you. A cleaner can end up a CEO and vice versa. You don’t know everyone’s situation and situations can change very quickly.
Money isn’t important to me. I’m grateful I have a roof over my head and food in the cupboards, but happiness is my driving force. Money is some people’s driving force and that’s okay too. We are all allowed different motivators. Can you imagine how boring life would be if we all wanted the same things?
My group of friends varies so much and that pleases me. I don’t care who rents, who has kids, who is on benefits etc. I like people for who they are. If you invite me over please don’t ever tidy up for me. I don’t care about that kind of thing. Although if you don’t give me a biscuit I will be silently judging. Kidding of course... okay, half kidding.
I’m the annoying person who talks to people at the park. Everywhere I go I make friends. It’s a blessing and a curse. On the one hand I meet new people, but on the other hand if you go out with me you might never see me because I’m off saying hi to someone else. Not everyone is like me and it’s just as well really. How annoying would that be? We’d never get anywhere!
Some people are shy. They’re not cold or stand offish. They just need a bit longer to feel comfortable. At a night out I was dancing and chatting to random people as my introverted friend watched on. I spoke to her and tried to get her involved as I didn’t want her to miss out. She explained she wasn’t missing out at all. She got her enjoyment from watching others enjoy themselves. She was more than happy to watch on. We’re all so different and I love that.
Kindness can be frustrating. You don’t always get gratitude, but that’s not a reflection on you. Remember that. People can be hostile, but you don’t know where they're at in their lives. Don’t be put off. Overall the nicer you are the more love you’ll get back. Don’t write people off because they’re different from you. Give everyone a chance and if you don’t get on you’ll know you tried. Manners cost nothing. Smile at everyone and say please and thank you. Everyone deserves to be appreciated. Let’s celebrate different.
Champagne and Snotty Noses
Don’t worry, I’m not planning on chucking them all on eBay anytime soon. But four is definitely our number and we are DONE! Greg is waiting for his vasectomy appointment to come through and I am selling off or passing on all of my baby items. So why do people feel the need to suggest I “try for just one more”.
Firstly, I don’t want anymore children. I just don’t. Some practical reasons are that we can’t afford it, we have no spare seats left in our car, even the poor dog has been relegated to non-car dweller because he just can’t fit in! We also don’t have room in the house. It’s full of so much baby crap as it is, even when we take multiple trips to the dump, everything still seems crammed in to the brim. I’d probably lose a newborn in the mess to be honest with you, I’d find it buried underneath wipes, bumbos and rogue dummies with Etti chewing on its toes like a feral ferret.
Also, I genuinely don’t think my body could take another pregnancy, let alone another surprise twin one (seriously it could only happen to me). I know a doctor would probably tell me that I’m healthy enough but honestly, I don’t feel it. I still feel drained physically and mentally from the birth of the babies, I’m so scarred I can’t even watch women in labour on tv anymore, it fills me with the same dread that filled me when Rouxs giant head was crowning, and I just can’t bear to relive that moment.
We also have to take into consideration the four children we currently have. We are able to feed, clothe and love them all equally as best as we can, and I don’t want to push any of that any further. It’s hard to get all 4 kids dressed and looking presentable (yes I like my kids to look nice, shoot me). I want to be able to give them all equal amounts of help when they bring homework home, I want to treat them all when we go shopping and not have to wait for a birthday to come around or to rely on family members to help out financially. They have their fair amount of hand me downs but I like to buy them new things. And I don’t want to have to skip story time before bed because I need to get the baby number 6, 7 or 8 fed.
And the selfish reason is that I want my body back. Not just looking nice but feeling good, fit, and healthy. In mind, body and soul and all that jazz. My current look can only be described as 'Sharon from Eastenders' because my chin has become so chubby my neck is disappearing. It’s not a good look, sorry no offence Shaz.
So, after people insist I will have another, as if they have the power to change my stubborn mind, They always go on to ask “but what if you fell pregnant again? What would you do? Oh my gosh what if it’s twins again?!” The answer for some reason seems to shock them. I wouldn’t keep it or them, regardless of how many of them there was. Now, I don’t say this to offend people or to upset them. I say it because it’s the truth. I don’t want anymore children so why would I bring it/them into the world just because I’d feel bad for having a termination?
We do actually have the choice, we have the FREEDOM to make that choice in this country. And I may get messages from people that have struggled to conceive, or can’t conceive for any matter of reasons that don’t like the fact that I am so straight to the point on this. But we all have our story and our reasons, we have had our struggles to fall pregnant, we tried for over two years before the girls and then when I finally did fall pregnant we miscarried. So I know loss and I know struggle and I wouldn’t let anyone else’s judgements stop me from making that decision for myself and my family.
On the flip side to this, we’ve decided that as soon as I’ve lost some weight, my cycle is back to normal and I am ready, I will go through the process to donate my eggs. In all honesty it’s not something I’ve ever wanted to do until I had Etti and Roux. There was always something very personal about it and I kind of felt like I’d be giving a child away. But now I know I’m fully finito with the twin making a switch inside me just went and it was like the personal attachment I once felt to those little cells in my ovaries had disappeared. I’m seeing them as opportunities for happiness for other people. Exactly what I am experiencing now could be given to someone else. And that’s bloody amazing.
So for anyone wondering, yes I am done, I am happy and I am content. And that is exactly how it will stay.
How are we already into the last term of school? I don’t know about you but I feel as though this year is absolutely flying by. Soon school will be out and we’ll be busy packing the factor 50 and flip flops ready for our summer holiday. Whoop!
Where have you booked for your holiday this year? Staycations are fashionable obvs, but if you’re jetting off somewhere in search of guaranteed sunshine (lucky you) I’d hazard a guess that, like us, you’ve got a week or two booked in a family-friendly resort with plenty of nearby amenities, daily children’s entertainment, and a nightly mini-disco. Am I close?!
Family holidays can be hard work
Family holidays are great, of course, but the truth is, holidays with young kids can feel like hard work. You need to do everything in your power to make it run as smoothly as possible and if that means booking the same reliable hotel year after year, then so be it! Next month, we’re heading back to the beautiful Port de Pollenca in Mallorca for the third year in a row. What can I say… it’s not very adventurous but it totally works for us and we know that we’ll have a great time.
What about an adults-only holiday?
Even if we can’t head back to our honeymoon paradise, is it possible to try and recreate that vibe with an adults-only holiday? We all know that time to yourself away from the kiddies is a really good thing. It lets you rest, recharge and refocus your energy. Self-care must be a non-negotiable part of our day, even if only for ten minutes. A few days away would most likely work wonders.
How do you feel about the thought of a child-free holiday? Even a long weekend? Would you jump at the chance, or would you have reservations? I haven’t spent more than one night away from our son since he was born. The first night I spent away was for a hen-do. Ethan was just a babe and to be honest, I found it very hard at the time.
But now that he’s five, would it be easier? I’m not really sure! It may even be harder now as he can actually tell me how much he is going to miss me. I think that as much as we need time to ourselves, leaving our brood for a few nights is always going to be a wrench.
Some of my mum-friends have had longer solo trips away, whether for work or pleasure. One is heading to Ibiza next month for a hen-do and she cannot wait. Her twins are seven though, so she’s definitely earned a break! No making packed lunches, no school-run, no doing homework, and no ferrying to and from after-school clubs for a whole week. Bliss!
Plan it for a special occasion
My school friends and I are planning a 40th birthday celebration somewhere hot. It’s not for a few years yet but as most of us have families now, it requires some forward planning. We are already starting to put some money aside and dream about luxury villas in sun-drenched destinations. I’m thinking about a Kardashian-style vacay with a private chef. A girl can dream, right?
This will be a girls-only trip, to celebrate three decades of friendship and heading into our forties on a high. Although it’s not the sort of trip I could contemplate just yet, I think by then I will more than ready to be footloose and fancy-free for a week. And honestly, I think it will do us all some good.
Have you already been on an adults-only holiday? How was it? Maybe you don’t yet feel ready to be away from your little one? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Mums Off Duty
Look past the notion that your children might not fit into the zen-like atmosphere of a rejuvenating body cleanse and discover the hidden benefits of a detox spa retreat where you can bring the kids along too. Here, Health and Fitness Travel, the wellness holiday specialists, share the best wellness holiday destinations where you can take some me-time to detox and unwind on a family holiday without the worries of childcare arrangements. With Kid’s Clubs offering an exciting range of action-packed activities to keep them fully entertained, stressed-out parents need no longer compromise their well-being.
Oman: Zighy Bay Family Holiday
Escape to an out of the ordinary family activity holiday at Zighy Bay in Oman where your children can experience numerous activities as you detox in tranquillity. Guided by childcare professionals, let them explore the landscape from new heights with slack lining, rock climbing and kayaking. Whilst your kids experience this detox spa retreats spectacular surrounding scenery, you can escape to the Six Sense Spa to detox and cleanse with re-energising facials, massages and holistic Asian therapies. Enhance your body cleanse with a group yoga class as your children are preoccupied by this fascinating outdoor spa retreat.
Portugal: Longevity Medical Spa Family Holiday
Enjoy quality family time with active tennis clinics available for both children and adults all year round on a spa and sport holiday with Longevity Medical Spa. You can also enjoy some ‘me-time’ in the safe knowledge that your kids will be completely preoccupied in the Koala Club with access to their own swimming pool and games room. Leave your children in safe hands whilst you enhance your well-being with cleansing Thalassa and detox spa therapies. Parents are welcome to embrace the healing power of marine therapies and highly effective scientific spa programmes, designed to optimise health and vitality.
Mauritius: Shanti Maurice Family Holiday
Venture to this tropical paradise to experience a truly family friendly holiday, where the kids club has its own toddler pool and games room, together with activities like face painting and crab hunting. Whilst you enjoy the rejuvenating effects of yoga and Pranayama sessions to enhance your detox cleanse with traditional meditative techniques, you can trust that your children will also be safely enjoying organised field trips to the nearby Crocodile Park and Casela bird sanctuary. As your kids get closer to nature, you can re-connect with yourself during detoxifying spa treatments.
Thailand: Soneva Kiri Family Holiday
You and your family can explore a secluded sanctuary on this detox spa retreat in Thailand. Kids clubs activities are available for all ages, with the Intrepid Explorers Club designed especially for the under 5s. Older children can enjoy a treehouse adventure in the Eco Den, where rainforest walks, water activities and chocolate making will inspire their creativity. At the same time, you can learn to detox on holiday as you experience cleansing facials, body scrubs and signature massages to banish those toxins from your body, leaving you fully refreshed for your return to everyday life.
Vietnam: Fusion Maia Family Holiday
Situated on Vietnam’s stunning East Coast, Fusion Maia offers creature comforts for all ages. Set within tropical gardens, parents can indulge with a minimum of 2 holistic treatments each day, while little ones join in with their own mini treatments. The Mini Maia programme has a host of creative activities to stimulate their minds every day from 2pm-4pm, including cookie decorating and singing. Based on your well-being goals choose from the Raw food, Juice Cleansing or Alkaline Detox programmes, each tailor made to cleanse your body, boost immunity and leave you revitalised.
For advice, guidance and booking visit www.healthandfitnesstravel.com or call 0203 397 8891
About Paul Joseph:
Wellness Travel Specialist and Entrepreneur, Paul Joseph, is the co-founder of Health and Fitness Travel, a global leader in wellness holidays worldwide. Always ahead of the curve in pioneering new health programmes that revive the soul, boost fitness or address serious health issues, the worldwide wellness tourism industry has now become a multi-billion sector, growing faster than travel in general. Paul has a wealth of PR, Marketing, Sales and Management experience in the health and tourism industry, consulting leading hotels on their wellness strategy and contributing regularly to broadcast and media interviews.
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Health and Fitness Travel is a global luxury wellness travel company that originated in the UK in 2010 and is committed to providing healthy holidays that enhance and change lives. Created by Paul Joseph and Adam Heathcote as a result of their passion for health and fitness travel and offering bespoke holidays to improve people’s well-being to lead happier and healthier lives.
Health and Fitness Travel offers clients a tailor-made seamless service with the very best health and fitness holidays, handpicked by its expert team, together with exclusive and added value packages with the best deals. As leading specialists, Health and Fitness Travel has also created their own collection of trademark healthy holidays in various destinations which include Fusion Fitness™ BodyBreaks™ and Discover Recover™, offering clients the best value and holiday experience. For more information visit: www.healthandfitnesstravel.com
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There is nothing I love more than relaxing by a pool, sunshine beaming down on me, with a cocktail in one hand and a book in the other. Our holidays abroad were the highlights of my year; our chance to switch off and relax. Fast forward a few years and my pasty skin has not seen Greek, Cypriot or Spanish sun in too long, thanks to our tiny tornado who now rules the roost.
We haven’t been abroad since I was pregnant. Every now and then we consider booking a last minute beach holiday, but then we come to our senses. We’ve realised that the peace and quiet that we used to enjoy on holiday would be replaced by constantly having to entertain a child who is far too keen on water and would have our stress levels shooting off the scale, as she edged ever closer to the pool; probably throwing away her arm bands, rubber ring and float as she went, just to add that extra bit of drama and danger! So we needed an alternative holiday that catered for all of our needs, but that we could all still enjoy. And this is where we fell in love with staycations.
A staycation is simply a holiday spent in your home country, or even just in your home town and venturing out on day trips. Having grown up in a seaside town, I could never understand why people would want to holiday within Britain. Why weren’t they racing to the travel agents to book themselves on the next flight to Corfu?! But since becoming parents we have realised that staycations are actually a great idea. If you are still yearning for the sun, sand and sea of international shores, but don’t think you are ready to face it all with kids, then read on as I share with you the reasons why a staycation is a great alternative.
It’s cheaper than holidaying abroad
Obviously if you decide to spend your break at The Ritz for a fortnight, then that will be much more expensive than a package deal to Spain. However, staycations can be done on a tight budget if you shop around and are flexible with your dates. There are lots of budget friendly hotels in Britain, and a huge number of holiday camps and caravan parks that cater specifically for families with young children. And as much as I enjoy holidays abroad as an adult, some of my best childhood memories come from holidays to a Butlins that was 25 minutes away from my house, or from trips to British seaside towns. I didn’t need a huge complex with an on site water park and spa: all I wanted was a face painter, a decent disco and Slush Puppies on tap. Holiday camps and parks have also come a long way since we were kids and are now providing much more for families, but still at relatively low prices. So get booking and make some memories!
We try to pick destinations that are far enough away from home so that we actually feel like we are away; but then we try not to travel too far so we can avoid having to spend too much time in the car. We have found that breaking a long road journey up into shorter parts makes it much more enjoyable for everyone. For example, on our way to Scotland we usually stop off in Leeds for a night or two to visit friends before setting off on the next leg of our journey. This also gives added bonus of making it feel like another mini holiday.
Less travel time
I hate flying. I’m always convinced that something bad is going to happen to the plane, to the point that I have to sit by the window just so I can keep make sure that everything looks ok and no bits have fallen off the plane. Thankfully so far no wings have dropped off on my watch, so I’m here to tell the tale. Flying is quite a stressful experience for me, so if I was to add a toddler into the flight equation, the anxiety levels would be through the roof. Trying to keep myself calm whilst dealing with a toddler confined to their seat for hours on end, after having spent a good few hours in the airport terminal, and so is understandably bored, is not the calm and peaceful start I’d like to my holiday. By staying in Britain we have managed to avoid most of the issues that can come from traveling with small children, and that has made our holidays all the more enjoyable. We try to pick destinations that are far enough away from home so that we actually feel like we are away; but then we try not to travel too far so we can avoid having to spend too much time in the car. We have found that breaking a long road journey up into shorter parts makes it much more enjoyable for everyone. For example, on our way to Scotland we usually stop off in Leeds for a night or two to visit friends before setting off on the next leg of our journey. This also gives the added bonus of making it feel like another mini holiday.
You’ll have everything you need nearby
Accidentally left behind the only nappy cream that your child’s sensitive skin doesn’t react horrendously too? Pop to the local Boots and pick up some more. Have they decided that the only thing they want to eat that week are some very particular own brand yoghurts/cake/chicken nuggets? Get yourself down the supermarket and stock up. The beauty of a staycation is that all the familiar shops that you use on a day to day basis at home will still be just a short drive away, perfect for when a toddler tantrum demanding is close to ending the holiday before it even starts.
Discovering hidden gems
Millions of people from across the world flock to Britain every year to visit our world famous tourist attractions. We are a nation steeped in history, culture and beauty, but so many of us choose to jet off to other countries to explore when we actually have so much left to discover on our own doorsteps.
So, what are you waiting for? Get out there and start enjoying your staycation!
Mama of a Cool Kid